Tuesday, February 2, 2010

Dammit, Phil....6 MORE weeks ??!?!?!?

(Just inserting a bit of levity into an otherwise depressing damn day) LOL


The overgrown rat in Puxatawny has predicted 6 more weeks of winter. I could get a gun and go shoot him myself. *%@#!#%^ WAIT A MINUTE !!!!!! I think we've been bamboozled here. Isn't 6 weeks only the middle of March? Isn't the 4th week of March spring anyway?
Once again the media has pulled the wool (or the coarse dirty fur, in this case) over our eyes. Here everyone is, bemoaning the fact that we have another 6 weeks of winter ahead of us, when we had another 6 weeks ahead of us all along. We could have all been out celebrating, but no, we've all been behind closed doors crying like babies. And all because one little flea bitten rodent HAD to be on national television. How crazy have we become?

How crazy HAVE we become? I have heard at least 10 people today talk about the final episode of LOST. And talk about it like those people REALLY EXIST SOMEWHERE ON AN ISLAND.... I have a friend (acquaintance, really) who is so hooked on Days of Our Lives, that she talks about these people and what 's happening on the episode like they were her neighbors or family. And the other day after a meeting, someone asked me if I had heard about Brad Pitt and Jennifer Aniston getting back together. I said "What?" Blinking, like an great horned owl suddenly in the glare of headlights at 3 in the morning. And of course I'm thinking, what in the hell is wrong with people? I want to take out a banner ad in a newspaper and say "LISTEN UP, FOLKS. THESE PEOPLE ON TV ARE NOT REAL!!!!!!" Even the Pitt/Aniston/Jolie triangle isn't REALLY real. In fact, between the 3 of them, there might be part of a real person, but with Hollywood, it's hard to tell. (I know that sounds a little harsh, but today I'm feeling vaguely despondent, so I can say whatever I want here, and it doesn't count.) At any rate, it scares me, the way the lines are blurring more every day between what is real and what is not real. Between Fact and Fiction. Between true and make believe.

I want to shout from the rooftops: Go outside!!!!!! Stick your hands in the dirt! Plant a garden, tend some chickens, nurse a sick animal back to health. Talk to your children! Turn off the idiot box and go lie on the beach somewhere. Bake a freaking cake!!!!! READ A BOOK FOR godssakes !!!!!

But if I did that, they'd carry me off and give me a room in the Happy Hilton somewhere. Because we just don't do these things. We don't go against the status quo, we believe everything we're told, and we get upset because a giant rat refused to lie to us and say that spring will be here any minute, and that we can all celebrate the end of a grey and brutally cold winter.


Maybe I should get some sleep.

I have been moody and emotional all day and I don't know why. I actually slept almost 8 hours last night, which is HUGE for me. I am eating right and not overdoing it. I am taking minimal pain medication. However...I found myself weeping (???WHAT????) several times today, and now I just want to sleep. Is it SAD? Is it delayed exhaustion/reaction to the chronic pain? Am I just a big crybaby?

Maybe. Or maybe...(omg, this happens every stinking year, and every year I block it from my mind until the final hour) ...maybe... tomorrow would have been my dad's 85th birthday. This August will mark the 25th anniversary of his death, the event that made me an orphan. A rather OLD orphan, but an orphan nonetheless. And even as my conscious memory cannot recall this, my cell memory is alive and well and working overtime. Feelings of loss and of grief like I had never known, visiting me all day.

On his last birthday, as he lay dying slowly of lung cancer, I went to visit him with my yearly batch of his very favorite thing in the world. Peanut Brittle. He was so weak already then, and had lost so much weight that he was a shell of his former self. I had by then moved about 4 hours from where he lived, so my visits were less than I would have liked, and there was always such a big change in him when I would see him again, that I could barely recognize him. My dad was looking so old there at the end, fighting that ultimate fight. His eyes lit up when I came in and the first words out of his mouth were "Did you bring it??" And when I handed him the box, he grinned like a kid. I had started making the brittle myself for him about 6 years before, and was always trying new recipes out on him. He got a lot of extra delight out of the fact that I made it for him. "They don't want me having much sugar anymore. Can you believe it? How stupid is that? I'm dying." and he laughed like a boy, as he shoved another piece in his mouth.

Even after all these years, I miss my dad. He taught me about life and he taught me about death. He taught me integrity and he taught me love and he taught me everything I needed to know about living in this crazy world. He gave me his Indian heart and he gave me his work ethic and he gave me, I hope, some of his courage.

Happy Birthday, daddy.



Little M said...

Aw, what a sweet little insight to your relationship with your father. Hugs!

Carol said...

Thank you for your support, you must sense how close I am to toss' in the towel. The loss of my phone friend hurts tremendously.

Realliveman said...

All this and PBS comes out with a special called Digital Nation. I know what happened to those days when playing outside and getting your hands dirty planting a garden or talking face to face with someone were the normal thing to do. They ended up on an iPod, connected to a Playstation connected to an HD TV which is connected to the internet for access to Facebook and Twitter. lol

Garykfc said...

Celebrate your Dad's life and all he gave you.

DJan said...

It really doesn't make any difference how long they have been gone, our parents will always be our parents and missed when something like a birthday or anniversary reminds us. I still miss my mom and dad, too. I hope writing about it made you feel at least a tiny bit better...

Stimpson said...

There's probably no moment I dread more than losing my dad or mom. You have my sympathies.

On a lighter note ... six more weeks of winter? Where I live, we put the word 'only' in there - as in, ONLY six more weeks of winter? Yahooo!

TechnoBabe said...

When you speak about your dad like this I get a lump in my throat. I did not have a father like this at all. I am not envious that you did; in fact, it makes me happy to hear the ones who did speak of the man who they call dad. For me, it is a way I share a dad with you just getting to listen in. Hugs.

Cloudia said...

You ARE always most welcome at my warm Hawaii blog, dear

Aloha, Friend!

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Enchanted Oak said...

I'll stand up and shout with you, Annie. Am I the only human on the North American continent who hasn't seen Lost? I don't even know what it's about, and I couldn't care less. I would like to know why people text. What is so difficult about picking up the phone and using it as a....get this....PHONE?
Don't let me get started.
Bless your heart about losing your dad. I lost mine when I was 27, years ago, and not a birthday goes by that I don't think of him. I have his death burned into my mind too. I'm kind of glad I don't get used to the grief. If I did, I'd be calloused, and I would rather be tender. So God bless you for staying tender about the death of such a vital part of your life.

Jess Mistress of Mischief said...


I like the insight, I relate to the annoyance. I love you!