Saturday, August 8, 2009

Simple Saturdays's been a long day! Nothing really extreme going on, just a long day. Those things happen from time to time...
Having to face the fact that I am totally addicted to eating Good&Plentys while I am on the computer at night. I love those things! And before I know it, I've eaten the whole box. Guess I have to stop buying them...I love anything black licorice... Tomorrow is going to be a busy day. Morning meeting, 4:30 meeting to see a friend pick up his 3 year coin, and then possibly another nighttime meeting. Have a sponsling at the house this weekend. She needs some good old fashioned dunking into meetings while she has 3 days off. We're also meeting a new sponsling I have just agreed to take on...a sweet young gay man who is having a time of it. I generally adhere to the women with women unspoken spoken rule. But this boy is about as female a female gets, except for his paraphenalia. lol Anyway, he asked me and I agreed. We'll meet at the meeting tomorrow evening. I've been talking with him on the phone awhile now....his last sponsor (and first sponsor) is unavailable to him now, due to health problems. SO, we'll give it a whirl and see how it goes. As always, I am quite sure that God has a plan. I was thinking today of the blessings in my life. A friend has an underage daughter who flipped a car with 3 passengers in it, driving while drunk. The law is throwing the book at her. This kid has been getting into scrapes and brushes with the law, and getting her cute little butt bailed out over and over. Not this time. I told her mother, this is a mixed blessing. She will probably lose her license forever this time...3 counts of drunk driving, one Class 4 felony, and reckless endangerment. She is pretty beat up as well, a broken collarbone and bruises and sprains. God bless all the little drunks out there that still think they are 10 ft tall and bulletproof! 2 of the kids are still hospitalized, 1 has been released. Luckily, no one was killed. The folks who live back behind us, across the pond, have a son 25 who was driving drunk and killed someone. He is in prison and will be there for a long time. And for the rest of his life he will have to live with that woman's death on his hands. The miracle is that of the thousands of times I was driving while intoxicated, I never hurt or killed anyone. Well, I hurt myself a few times, but no one else. And here's the thing: I never ever would hurt another human being. But over and over again, without even considering the possibilities, I got behind the wheel of a car thinking I was okay to drive. And I'm sure that both of these kids above feel the same way. But it's too late now for them both. There are commercials on the radio here that say "Buzz driving IS drunk driving." Emphasizing that if you just had a couple to give you that buzz, you are over the legal limit to drive. It says something like: It's easy too tell when you've had way too much to drink. But not so easy when you just had a few and are barely buzzed. The legal limit for drinking and driving is a lot lower than you think. Maybe it'll make some of these kids think. Hey--it could happen... I'm grateful to have a kid that's sober and clean. I'm blessed to be sober myself. I appreciate the fact that I only have to stay sober today. I am grateful for all those "scouts"...the ones coming back in with all the arrows in their backs, telling me that it hasn't gotten any better out there. I'm really really grateful that I don't have to be one of them. I'm blessed to be a sober mom and wife and sister and aunt. I have a niece who seems to be training for her seat in AA these days. I'll be here to open the door for her. Life's a dance....when you know the Steps! Namaste.


Madison said...

Thank you for being there to open the door. My heart goes out to the mother of the continuously intoxicated underage girl. I hope Mom is going to Alanon.

Prayer Girl said...

What a terrific post. You had so many wonderful things here that I don't know even where to start.

I'll just pick a few:
God has such a sense of humor and He truly doesn't care what I think of what He has planned for me. The fact that you said "yes" to the gay guy touched me as the right thing to do. I too follow the women with women, men with men, but - what is that saying? "Rules were meant to be broken?"

I loved the fact that you have a sponsling with you for the weekend and are planning some "good old fashioned dunking into meetings". What a great way to put it.

Killing people while driving drunk? There but for the grace of God go I.

Love you,

Steve E. said...

What a well-written blog. You give everyone a lot to think about. And what a worker you are.

It seems as if you are always "boarding' a recovering person, even when we met you, there was one or two Alkies living there, besides you.
God will be (IS) rewarding you for your boundless effort.

Andrew said...

I was one who gave no thought to driving drunk. I almost succeeded in killing myself a few times, but thankfully nobody else.

Ginnie said...

Back in the mid 90's I sponsored a gay guy. He had a male sponsor but needed a female to balance things out. I found it was one of the nicest relationships that I've had in AA. Good luck with it.