tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6448246538491495908.post4303024625981277613..comments2024-02-09T09:13:33.661-08:00Comments on Elegant Blessings: Have you ever....Akanniehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00513632434353119491noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6448246538491495908.post-36235492041343874752011-10-29T00:51:55.717-07:002011-10-29T00:51:55.717-07:00In my life, grief and humiliation, hunker down in ...In my life, grief and humiliation, hunker down in the basement forever. And a vapor of it can strike at any time. That doesn't mean it's in charge. It comes and goes.Murr Brewsterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03422638986410813520noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6448246538491495908.post-65955302742818529572011-10-28T17:19:13.457-07:002011-10-28T17:19:13.457-07:00Sometimes I think it is better not to know where o...Sometimes I think it is better not to know where or how they are. I suppose it depends, but when I think of my own experience it makes me sad.<br /><br />Many years ago, like 40, I was in love with a guy. Crazy in love for many reasons. We both were using/drinking. I changed. Anyway, I found him a year ago and went out to spend a couple of days with him--to see. He was still drinking, worse than ever, and it caused both of us a lot of pain. Now, a year later I've come to understand that those of us who are spared our disease often still yearn for the past and its inherent chaos. Just my experience Annie.Rubye Jackhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02511953177053448513noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6448246538491495908.post-78238541228841804762011-10-27T16:14:57.278-07:002011-10-27T16:14:57.278-07:00Yes... I totally have those moments.
Especially if...Yes... I totally have those moments.<br />Especially if I am or was strongly connected to someone.<br /><br />One of my exes that I had not spoken to in years died earlier this year. A few months prior I had a dream of him driving around a VW which had the windshield covered up with something and he couldn't see and was completely lost. He drank himself to death also. <br /><br />The way I felt when I "found out" was very much like you described. But I sort of knew from the dream that he was in trouble. Wish I would have tracked him down. I did think about it. Sigh.<br /><br />Anyway, grieving and healing is not a process that has a definite ending point... I think it's something we get better at accepting as part of life and just try to embrace it for what it is and honor the process...<br /><br />I hope you feel better.<br />xoPetit fleurhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02626110471501778855noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6448246538491495908.post-15605383457132384402011-10-27T11:23:33.485-07:002011-10-27T11:23:33.485-07:00I will hear a song that was a favorite of my husba...I will hear a song that was a favorite of my husband and my tears will start flowing. Even though it will be 5 years on Dec 1st, <br /><br />What you felt is normal, it happens to most of us at one time or another.Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12020604933621899108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6448246538491495908.post-6599717284904226042011-10-27T09:46:54.724-07:002011-10-27T09:46:54.724-07:00I wondered if maybe he was reaching out to you som...I wondered if maybe he was reaching out to you somehow, too? Out of curiosity, I'd be googling, too. I hope you hear something.<br /><br />I have had times (many of them with music) where the same emotions overwhelm me. some good, some bad. I love your honesty and openness. Honored that you would share this with us. :)Ritahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02043285884495492598noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6448246538491495908.post-79060780662656666292011-10-27T05:22:03.931-07:002011-10-27T05:22:03.931-07:00Yes, it certainly does happen to the rest of us. L...Yes, it certainly does happen to the rest of us. Loves and lives lost forever, sometimes I have tears running down my face and missing someone so much that it really does feel almost like a physical hurt.<br /><br />Annie, maybe it's true that you are moving towards a spiritual epiphany or something. I've felt it in your writing for a while now, and it makes me so very happy and privileged to be your friend. I hope you got a good night's sleep. I always look forward to hearing what it's like in your world... :-)DJanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07152183871573797791noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6448246538491495908.post-50852875302030846142011-10-27T05:04:01.701-07:002011-10-27T05:04:01.701-07:00The song took you back emotionally, to where you w...The song took you back emotionally, to where you were, to the tangled memories.<br /><br />It is in my thoughts, when a relationship ends amid most prevailing causes, the love does not stop.<br /><br />We move on but the love remains within us, and when it visits, our feelings surface. I think the love is separate from the issues that led to a break-up.<br /><br />I also think you will settle this and let go of some of the pain, maybe all at one, maybe bit by bit.<br /><br />Wishing peace and rest to find you.the wild magnoliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14355836751549469688noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6448246538491495908.post-37590907592056068382011-10-27T04:26:44.997-07:002011-10-27T04:26:44.997-07:00Yes, many times through the years. I do wonder if ...Yes, many times through the years. I do wonder if he was reaching out to you. It sometimes happens through music for me. I wonder if the people with whom we share our lives ever do leave us, or even if they should. Finding a way to live with them peacefully is key. <br /><br />I feel blessed by your sharing this in ways I can't explain, but thank you. It was Very generous of you. I got goosebumps as I read this, big goosebumps. Would you find anything if you googled his name and perhaps the last place he lived? Perhaps there is some verification out there that would put your heart at ease.Teresa Evangelinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05495114564099989481noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6448246538491495908.post-41039756178198570302011-10-27T01:49:28.690-07:002011-10-27T01:49:28.690-07:00sleep, to rest, to dream. . .
Aloha from Honol...sleep, to rest, to dream. . . <br /><br /><br /><br />Aloha from Honolulu<br /><br /><a href="http://comfortspiral.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow">Comfort Spiral</a><br /> <br /> > < } } ( ° >Cloudiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05853753108637831069noreply@blogger.com